Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.


by Max Ehrmann

“It’s the most wonderful time of the year”

"Legendary quotes blown away into the blue;

We say what we want but it’s the opposite of what we do.

We could all be happy if we really wanted to.

But — “if I’m not being happy… then, well, why should you?”

Selfishness kills you,

Selflessness builds you.

So do what you want but make sure you’re still true.

We forget about how Jesus died for what we used to do;

We still sin every day but He still loves you.

Caught up in the act of doing what we do;

We party, smoke, blaze and we get drunk too.

Getting home late, past our curfew.

What happened to family, love, and virtues?

We live every day without thinking it through;

Our ultimate goals in which we want to pursue.

So take these words and put it into your view;

"I'M OKAY!" I can see past your lies — it’s like they’re see-through.

Just sit back with your family and have some fondue,

This time of year is when God comes to the rescue."

-Kim Nguyen


Where Do You Draw The Line?

"Come on, I know we're just human and all that jazz, but yes, if humans have the ability to falter and submit to temptation, then humans were given the gift to fight back and do something about it." -Jeffrey Gache

The excuse "we're human, we're not perfect" can only go so far. Using that excuse to get over your guilt like *snap* is settling into complacency. Not to mention denial.

Can you imagine if you kept hurting your mom and dad and you just said "oh, well I'm not perfect!" and did nothing else to change? Would you keep running away, forever held down by your guilt, denial, depression and bitterness?

Sometimes we have to face God and humble all that we are and admit our wrongs.

"What can I say? What can I do? But offer this heart O God, completely to You." -The Stand, by Hillsong

What can you say? What can you do? A sin is a sin. No reason or explanation can get you out of something you've committed. All you can do is just pray and repent...

...and never forget that nothing that you do to God can make Him love you less.

God will always love you, but it's up to you whether you want to be with Him or not.

It's your choice where you want to finish. And in accordance with popular belief, fate really is in your hands. That is one of the greatest gifts God has given Man: freewill.

So where do you draw the line?

Holiness

"Holiness is not the luxury of a few. It is everyone's duty: yours and mine." -Mother Theresa

"You are called to holiness. That may mean that you are a nun or a lawyer. You may be a mother or a single professional. But God’s will for your life is the same: holiness, no matter who you are. That is why we are created. We are created to be holy in love, in love with God, in love with other people, and in love with the community of believers. That’s what we are all destined for - holiness in love." -Allen Hunt (Confessions of a Mega Church Pastor)

Gift

"For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord." -Romans 6:23

Wages = We earned it.
Gift = We didn't.

"Life is the first gift, love is the second, and understanding the third." -Marge Piercy

Conceal

"Laughter can conceal a heavy heart, but when the laughter ends, the grief remains." -Proverbs 14:13

Hurt

"Hurt people hurt people." -RevRunWisdom

"When you're hurt, you want to hurt harder who's hurting you. But I'll tell you: it will only hurt you even more. And believe me, I don't want to hurt you, because what hurts you, hurts me more." -Anonymous

"Yes, God hurts when we do not love Him back, but it’s not because He needs us; it is because He knows how badly we need Him." -via Adriana Maravilla

12 Sins We Blame On Others

Ben Reaoch (KnowGodKnowLove)

It started in the Garden. Adam said to God,

The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.

See. (Genesis 3:12)

The first man, caught in the first sin, turns to blame his wife. And he extends the blame to God as well! He implies that he would have remained innocent if God hadn’t put Eve in the garden with him.

The blame-shifting in the Garden continues today. Our proud hearts send us desperately looking for someone else to point to every time we’re confronted with our own sin. There must be someone else—our spouse, sibling, parent, boss, co-worker, pastor, friend, or God, himself.

We are so desperate to justify ourselves that we become irrational. Here are 12 examples.

1 Anger

I wouldn’t lose my temper if my co-workers were easier to get along with, or if my kids behaved better, or if my spouse were more considerate.

2 Impatience

I would be a very patient person if it weren’t for traffic jams and long lines in the grocery store. If I didn’t have so many things to do, and if the people around me weren’t so slow, I would never become impatient!

3 Lust

I would have a pure mind if there weren’t so many sensual images in our culture.

4 Anxiety

I wouldn’t worry about the future if my life were just a little more secure—if I had more money, and no health problems.

5 Spiritual Apathy

My spiritual life would be so much more vibrant and I would struggle with sin less if my small group were more encouraging, or if Sunday school were more engaging, or if the music in the worship service were more lively, or if the sermons were better.

6 Insubordination

If my parents/bosses/elders were godly leaders, then I would joyfully follow them.

7 A Critical Spirit

It’s not my fault that the people around me are ignorant and inexperienced.

8 Bitterness

If you knew what that person did to me, you would understand my bitterness. How could I forgive something like that?

9 Gluttony

My wife/husband/roommate/friend is a wonderful cook! The things they make are impossible to resist.

10 Gossip

It’s the people around me who start the conversations. There’s no way to avoid hearing what others happen to say. And when others ask me questions, I can’t avoid sharing what I know.

11 Self-Pity

I’ll never be happy, because my marriage/family/job/ministry is so difficult.

12 Selfishness

I would be more generous if we had more money.

Making excuses like this is arrogant and foolish. It’s a proud way of trying to justify our actions and pacify our guilty consciences. And it keeps us from humbling ourselves before God to repent of our sins and seek his forgiveness.

Consider James 1:13-15, which leaves us with no way of escaping our own sin and guilt. We cannot blame God, for he “cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one.”

Instead, we have to accept the humbling truth that “each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire.” This will end the blame game, and it will send us pleading for Christ’s mercy and grace.

Application: From the twelve examples, which is your prominent area of “blaming” and what can you do to minimize that in your life?

5 Ways to Love/10 Ways to Love

Joshua De Gracia (KnowGodKnowLove)

Get out there..love and be loved because God is LOVE.

1. Listen and think before you speak. Your tongue has the power of life and death.

James 1:19-20

“My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.”

2. When in doubt, love. When in even more doubt, give more.

Proverbs 21:26

“All day long he craves for more, but the righteous give without sparing.”

3. Pray without ceasing.

Colossians 1:9

“For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you and asking God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding.”

4. Love through good times and bad.

Proverbs 17:17

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”

5. Love no matter what because love covers all.

1 Peter 4:8

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”

10 Ways to Love

1. Listen without interrupting. (Proverbs 18)

2. Speak without accusing. (James 1:19)

3. Give without sparing. (Proverbs 21:26)

4. Pray without ceasing. (Colossians 1:9)

5. Answer without arguing. (Proverbs 17:1)

6. Share without pretending. (Ephesians 4:15)

7. Enjoy without complaint. (Philippians 2:14)

8. Trust without wavering. (Corinthians 13:7)

9. Forgive without punishing. (Colossians 3:13)

10. Promise without forgetting. (Proverbs 13.12)

Availability

"God doesn’t ask your ability or your inability. He asks only your availability." -christiangirlnz

God's will.

"Never confuse the will of the majority with the will of God." -Adriana Maravilla

Loving yourself. Part 2

Sometimes I get in those moments when I see something so amazing, so creative, so imaginative and instead of raking up that motivation and inspiration, I take the opposite direction.

We all know it, discouragement.

These people, in the perfect and blessed environment doing what they love in… well… what we see as perfect and blessed.

The usual thoughts of “oh man, they’re so good………………” or “wow… some people just get all the talent….” or “I suck.” and also “I don’t even want to do this anymore…” and even “I think I lost the passion to (insert talent)…” and even as far and selfish and ungrateful as “Why didn’t you bless me with that, God?” BAM.

Sometimes, when the environment is right like in a dance studio, a classroom, a field, a gym, etc. its easy to get sucked into that environment and forget the rest of the world.

Think about it, say you have a lot of dancer friends? Well obviously then dance is a huge impact in your life and may seem like the only thing that you need to be good at to get that happiness, that attention and love, that circle of friends. This could go for anything: academics, sports, instruments, singing, art, drama, writing, leadership, certain personalities, ANYTHING!

In the end, no matter where you are in the world, whatever environment you are brought up in or live in will have a huge influence on determining what you admire and value.

…And so, with that perfect environment, its easy to get sucked into that one specific one and forget the world. The more your eyes are closed the easier it is for lies like discouragement to seep in and set their place. But, God gave you eyes for a reason. And not just for the physical reasons.

Look around you, and look at all the friends God has blessed you with. Each with their own talent to share, their own passion to inspire others, their own views and ideas to open doors, and their own life to love others. There are so many people with passions of all kinds and talents of all levels that it seems impossible that one talent or skill is the determining factor of whether you can be happy or not in this lifetime.

God has truly blessed His people with mysteries and wonders to shape and shock the world and in the end, no matter what you say, WE HAVE BEEN BLESSED.

Everything that we are, everything that we have been, and everything that we are to be is a gift from God.

So take it in. Cherish that. Like blessed Mary may we always say “YES” to His gifts.

Love yourself. God loves you. Is that not enough? Could you dare to say that it’s not?

But it’s okay, like anything, it takes time. Sometimes our minds know the answers but it’ll take however long it takes for your heart to set it in. For others, long, and for some not. We are all on the same road.

Different stories, same roots.

Passion

"God created us to live with a single passion to joyfully display His supreme excellence in all the spheres of life. The wasted life is the life without passion." -Anonymous

"It's not a passion anymore if you're willing to sacrifice friendship and values. At that point it's an addiction. Be hungry, not gluttonous." -Keone Madrid

Courtship

"Courtship is not “let’s get to know each other.” Courtship happens when he takes the time to sit down with your parents and tell them “I have every intention of marrying your daughter.”" -Lorna Richardson

rayahrealista:

I have 5 minutes to get this off my chest.

Courtship, to me, is not just “a pursuit of one’s heart”.

Anyone can try to pursue your heart.

I think it takes a certain maturity to say, “Let’s pray together about our friendship and the possibility of an actual relationship.”

Why? Because, It is not just about feelings, brightening each other’s days, making each other laugh or sharing your days with each other.

I have close friendships that serve the same purpose. I have brothers and sisters who fill my life with as much joy as any other guy could. My life is full of Love because God is in it.

So what’s the difference between a courtship and a friendship?

I think it’s surrender.

Regardless of the way I feel about anyone, what God thinks matters most to me and so, surrendering everything I think and feel to God is making the difference here.

Tomorrow, a week or a month from now…we could find that “this” does NOT work and that God doesn’t approve, and that would be okay with me.

His joy is my joy. Therefore, if this isn’t “it” I’ll be more than okay. I’ll still be happy regardless of not getting “my way.”

So sisters, guard your hearts. Do not stir up love before its time. If a brother is trying to “pursue your heart” sit high on your pedestal and make him work for your heart. Let him prove to God that he is worthy of your beauty. Just because a brother starts paying special attention to you does not mean you’re obligated to reciprocate.

Pray pray pray! If he hasn’t stated his intentions, hasn’t clearly stated that he wants to pray with you about starting a relationship, then be ON GUARD.

Don’t settle for the grey area. You’re either JUST friends or CLEARLY in a courtship. If you’re just friends, make sure you act accordingly (and if he’s acting beyond the lines of friendship, CALL HIM OUT!)

Don’t trade your heart for compliments, presents and late night phone calls.

Your heart belongs to a jealous God. He won’t give your heart to just anyone who thinks you’re beautiful.

Surrender your heart to God and hide beneath His protection. Let any brother who wants to seek you out, settle the matter with God.

Annnd….with that, 5 minutes is up and I need to go to school.

"Courtship: a new season of friendship. The purpose of this time would be to deepen our relationship so that we could prayerfully and purposefully explore the possibility of marriage.

Ultimately, it wasn’t the word itself that mattered. What did matter… was that our relationship have a clearly defined direction. I didn’t want to play games with her. Although I wanted us to start going on dates, I wasn’t interested in dating for the sake of dating. I wanted more than anything else to please God and find out if marriage was His plan for us. And I wanted this process to be one we could look back on with fondness and without regret— whether or not we married each other.

Some people asked why I bothered to initiate a defined season of courtship with her. Why not just ask her out and see where it went? I did it because I didn’t want another undefined relationship. Too many times in the past I had separated the pursuit of intimacy from the responsibility of commitment. I had learned that this was neither a wise nor caring way to treat a girl.

From the start, our pursuit of intimacy was paired with an openness to commitment. The difference was that now our activities and time we spent together had a purpose beyond mere recreation, and that purpose was clearly defined… We were walking toward the commitment of marriage, not simply seeing how romantically involved we could become for the sake of good time… We weren’t simply trying to get swept up in our emotions. Instead we were letting our feelings grow naturally out of our deepening respect, friendship and commitment to one another. Setting clear course for a defined season of courtship helped us keep from rushing into involvement with our hearts and bodies before we had time to get to know each other’s mind and character.

So even though a courtship shouldn’t be too serious, too soon, it shouldn’t be embarked on lightly either. In one sense, courtship is a commitment— It’s a promise not to play games with another person’s heart. In that sense it’s serious. It’s a willingness to honestly explore the merits of a lifelong commitment.

So what is courtship? It’s dating with a purpose. It’s romance chaperoned by wisdom. It’s a way of approaching relationships that can help us live out the truth of God’s Word as we persuit our heart’s desire. It’s a story of boy meets girl, where— whether you choose to marry or not— you can get to know each other in the confidence that you have only God’s very best ahead for each of you." -Joshua Harris

Authenticity

"If the person you project to others isn't the same as who you are on the inside, you'll never be happy." -Dr. Luyten (via Abby Zaporteza)

Moving Towards a Goal

(via movementlifestyle.tumblr.com)

He has a dream
"Warning: this is going to be long :)

Sometimes I feel like my heart is so full that it’s going to consume my entire abdomen. My chest swells and I feel like a giant hand is inside there in a fist, and it’s slowly opening itself until it’s fully extended. Like the fingers are so straight that the sinews going from it’s palms to web to fingernails are stretched to the point of almost snapping. And every time I breathe it’s like I’m overwhelmed with silent joy. I don’t know what to call it, inspiration, passion, blood pressure, but I do know that movement in there is there pushing me toward something beautiful.

Recently I took a trip to Washington D.C. in the midst of listening to the new John Legend & The Roots album called Wake Up! Walking around the capitol of this country, around these giant monuments, these enormous tributes to things that have happened, you can’t help but reflect. Combining that with John Legend’s almost angelic voice drifting old activist lyrics through my mind, I felt the overwhelming expansion in my chest, that familiar feeling, and I felt it pushing me. There’s so much in my head that has swum upward from my heart lately. So many thoughts and ideas that I feel like are stuck in my brain right now treading water. I need to get them out and I’ll try my best to tie them all together because to me they all swim together in harmony.

In D.C. we walked around the new WWII monument, looking at the names of countries and cities that fought, certain ones struck me, Colorado, California, the Philippines, all for personal reasons. We kept walking, up to the stairs of Lincoln monument, where I came across the picture I took. Martin Luther King Jr.’s famous words “I have a dream,” were engraved on one of the steps. By chance it was still in the shade and some water had stayed inside its crevices, leaving those historic words I have a dreamstaring at me from the ground. I felt like I was the first person to ever see those words carved into the steps, I was so excited to discover them there. Somehow they sort of planted themselves on my shoulders and followed me from that moment, even until now as I sit and write this. We continued, We took pictures of Lincoln, the Washington monument across the water, and the Korean War memorial. It was really heavy by the time we got to the Vietnam War memorial, something about seeing all the names of the people who lost their lives made them more real, then thinking about their families, and thinking about the countless Vietnamese people and their families and the losses they experienced. With each step two thoughts kept nagging me. This country is so young, yet so many bad things have happened, so many people have sacrificed there lives, have fought to be treated right, and thinking about the pain and suffering made tears well up in my eyes. Yet at the same time, I heard in my head that even though yes, bad has happened, that historically not that long ago our country was still segregated. Look how much has changed with each generation. I was teaching that weekend at a workshop run by a Filipino-American and a Spanish-Chinese-American, the instructors were African-Americans, and then me, a Caucasian-Filipino-American. As sentimental as it is, I couldn’t help but tell MLK Jr. in my thoughts that his dream was real. That it was happening, it wasn’t finished, but it is real. Now my question to us, being young people now: to our generation, what will we do.

Now this brings me to 2 main things I want to say. One is dance. If you are reading this blog, there’s a 97% chance that you’re a dancer. You know how it feels to run through your sneakers until there a hole in them, you love it when you wake up the morning after a tough rehearsal and you feel like you got run over by a truck, your heart beats to be on a stage. I cannot describe how much dance means to us dancers. I don’t believe any of us can accurately make another understand, only to know that someone who isn’t passionate about dance is probably passionate about something else and can relate on that level. Even if you see dance as a hobby in your life, or maybe it competes with other things for your time, you know that love and how deep it can go. For me dancing is a blessing, it is a gift that God gave us in the world and put it on some of our hearts and in our bodies to desire to do. That’s my belief and I am so grateful and thankful for it whether I keep dancing for another 50 years or for another week. Dance is a gorgeous thing not just to watch, but what you can do with it.

In September, a friend and great leader in the dance community, Melissa Adao, threw her 2nd Annual Outreach Through Dance’s Dance for a Wish show. Her charity show works with the San Diego chapter of the Make a Wish Foundation to help grant wishes for children in need. Not only does this show help give light to a child’s life and family, but she has the wish child participate in the show. This year Emely, a sweet 4-year-old ball of energy who has gone through more medical treatment than most adults, came to rehearsals, tech, took pictures with the cast, and came out for the bow at the end of both shows. I know for me, other dancers at the show, and maybe even the audience, we felt humbled, motivated, and had our eyes opened to the potential of our gifts. Outreach Through Dance brought together all those people who love dance to do something good for someone else. That was more rewarding than any trophy, youtube views, compliments, money; you name it. And I know we all gotta work, we all gotta survive, and I don’t want to make you feel guilty for not giving away all your money and time to charity. I believe in the resources that God provides for us and that we are to use them wisely. But what I do want to ask is how are you using what you’ve been given? Do you use it only for yourself? Or do you include others?

We are a new generation in dance. So much has changed (that is an entirely different blog haha), but out of change can come good. Movement Lifestyle is one of my resources, you reading this is a chance to say something worthwhile. As a person, I have so much to work on, but let’s do this together. How can we do good with what we have? I want to encourage our community toward togetherness. So often I travel somewhere and I hear about rivalries between studios, between crews, and even animosity between styles, but where does that get us? Nowhere. It’s sad to hear that there are students who want to take class, but are prevented from learning because a leader (and that is very disappointing) is telling them not to go because it supports the rival studio, crew, etc. You need to let down that pride, let down those barriers, and let people grow together. When you do, when people can get over differences, we can work together to make our particular kind of dance more legitimate, but also to do something amazing in the world. If we all did a little bit, what could we do? It’s nice to think about it, to be moved, to be inspired, to pray about something, to write about it, but it’s another to do it.

In light of all of this, the holidays are coming up. I might be being a Westerner to think that people identify with the “holiday spirit,” and I don’t want to assume that anyone believes in anything or celebrates anything. I am nostalgic about Christmas, but I do think a good amount of people relegate the winter months with a sense of giving and peace toward our fellow man. This is my challenge for all of us. If you felt anything reading this blog, if the words touched you or made you feel like getting up out of your chair and doing something good, then act on it. Give to somebody this year that you normally wouldn’t. Be creative, use the gifts that you have to benefit someone else. Here’s an idea for people in SD: Cye Bongolos, a young dancer here is throwing a charity show, Thank You for the Music, on November 12 to raise money for VH1’s Save the Music Foundation to keep music programs in school. All the info is on facebook, go and you’ll be helping another person who may be making the music your children end up dancing to. Here’s a link to the fb page: http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=128396210514867&ref=ts If you’re a person of faith: Keone and I are going to participate in Operation Christmas Child put on by Samaritan’s Purse where people pack shoeboxes with gifts and they are delivered to children in poverty all over the world. Last year they delivered 8 million boxes to children in over 100 countries and had countless opportunities to share the gospel. Go tohttp://www.samaritanspurse.org/index.php/OCC/ for more info. You could even let down your pride or fear and reach a hand out to someone, someone at your rival studio, someone who you has hurt you and you haven’t forgiven, someone you forgot to tell how much you appreciate what they do. There are so many ways, runners run races to raise money for all sorts of causes, I know our dance community can spread that love that we feel from dance, that power of unity that it has, and use it to make this world even more beautiful.

So what will you do? Whether you take some change out of your wallet and put it in a little plastic bin for breast cancer, or you hold your tongue and don’t assume things about people you don’t know and instead bother to find out, or you start a huge campaign to help people far away who don’t know what it’s like to drink a cold glass of clean water, let’s do it. We can all contribute. If you’re reading this now, you are given enough in your life to have eyes to read this, a hand to click a mouse or hold a phone, and an education that enables you to read. Let’s do something guys. That beautiful dream that MLK Jr. had, I think that dream was from God. And I believe that God gave us each other so that we can come together to do amazing things.


Heart,
Mari"

Perseverance

"We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; 9 persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. 10 We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body." -2 Corinthians 4:8-10

"To love. To be loved. To never forget your own insignificance. To never get used to the unspeakable violence and the vulgar disparity of life around you. To seek joy in the saddest places. To pursue beauty to its lair. To never simplify what is complicated or complicate what is simple. To respect strength, never power. Above all, to watch. To try and understand. To never look away. And never, never, to forget." -
Arundhati Roy

"Sometimes God pushes us to our limits. It’s because he has greater faith in us than we have in ourselves." -Anonymous